Pete Mosley’s specialism is in working with introverts, quiet and shy people and those who lead and manage them. He helps people to think through key issues in respect of quiet people and their needs in relation to diversity & inclusion so that workplaces get the very best from quieter and more energised team members alike. He works with corporate clients, local authorities, universities, and not-for-profit organisations.
His work is informed by personal experience. He is a Deep introvert (INFJ-T). This coupled with the destabilizing experience of several Adverse Childhood Experiences left him shy, anxious, and bewildered as a youngster. He forced himself to gain confidence through learning complex performing arts skills and performing in public.
After Pete’s sessions, people start to speak up. They gain confidence from knowing how to sound good without being shouty, arrogant or pushy.
- Author: A Quiet Person’s Guide (to Life + Work) (2022) and The Art of Shouting Quietly – a guide to self-promotion for Introverts and other quiet souls. (2015)
- Contributor to Susan Cain’s Quiet Revolution website. (Author of the book Quiet)
- Contributor to Cambridge University’s Leading Change agenda, designing and delivering content for the Queen’s Young Leaders programme. (2015-8)
- 33 Years as a business mentor in the Creative Industries.
- 8 Years as Business Editor for Craft & Design magazine.
- ICF/Postgraduate Certificate in Business & Personal Coaching (2007)
- Coach Trainer – Lead Tutor for Barefoot Coaching Ltd. ICF/Postgraduate Certificate in Business & Personal Coaching.
- Personal specialism in working with and enabling better experiences for quiet people.
Workshop Information
Unlocking The Wisdom of Quiet People – Talk/Masterclass
How can you tap into the wisdom of quiet people? How can you help them perform to the best of their abilities? How much value is locked up in the minds of your quieter team members?
Who is this talk for?
- Savvy leaders and managers who would like to understand their introvert and quiet colleagues better and take steps towards working more inclusively with them.
- Introverts and quiet people at work who want to make a strong case for a more inclusive culture.
- Anyone who feels their quiet nature blocks them from growing, changing or participating fully in life. Anyone who feels pressure to behave in a way they don’t want to or feels they are pushed to ‘fake it ‘til they make it’.
The talk is designed to explore issues around quietness in the workplace, how quieter people can be encouraged to contribute, and how leaders and managers can effectively facilitate this change.
It’s an opportunity to put Quiet into context and reframe it as an advantage rather than a hindrance.
We’ll explore the whole ‘scatter graph’ of quiet – shyness, social anxiety, introversion, lack of confidence etc., and learn how we can re-contextualise quietness. A lot of the pain that quiet people suffer is caused by pressure from others to conform to social norms.
By making a few simple adjustments quieter people can start to feed their valuable thinking into the discussion, and everyone benefits. Quieter people take longer to process information and do so in a different way. As a result, they often do better quality thinking and as a result have valuable ideas and insights which then get lost in the rush to decision making – especially when the most energetic contributors are allowed most of the speaking/decision forming time. Over time, the quieter voices give up trying, believing their efforts are neither recognized nor rewarded. This is extremely damaging to team dynamics and to the effectiveness of the team as a whole. The strengths and insights quieter people are hired for are lost. How can this be changed?
Overview
Why are people quiet/why do they go quiet? It’s not just introversion/extraversion that are in play –sometimes quiet shows up as a combination of several factors operating together.
I explain how quiet behaviour, introversion, and confidence inter-relate, and why tradition scales such as the ‘bell curve’ of introversion (introvert/ambivert/extrovert) and the not confident/super confident scale don’t represent reality. Confidence is a mercurial quality that ebbs and flows for everyone – and we all have our own ’brand’ of confidence – which means introverts and quieter folk show up across a scatter graph pattern of behaviours they feel comfortable with at any given time. This explains why some people are extremely good at presenting and leading but might be terrified by the social anxiety of attending a dinner party (e.g., Bear Grylls) or superb character actor that feels physically sick prior to performing (e.g., Tom Hanks) The ebb and flow of self-belief (internal narrative) also plays a part.
- Introversion affects 30-50% of the population. (Source: Susan Cain: Quiet)
- Add to this a significant percentage of people who are quiet for other reasons.
- There is a strong cultural bias towards Extroverts.
- We therefore need to think about value lost through introverts’ inability to contribute.
Cheeky Letters and Dream Lists – the TEDx talk.
A talk about confidence, making your mark on the world and finding success on your own terms. The original 18-minute version was delivered at Derby TEDx. The talk has been revised and updated to a full keynote length and has been delivered in many venues all over the UK. It’s an evergreen talk designed to help the audience reflect on their potential and leave inspired to do more with their lives. Available as a talk with Q’s and A’s
